Do you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or burnt out in your career? Are you struggling to stay focused on your goals and aspirations?
If your answer is YES, then you are ready to embrace your role as a Resilient Leader.
I’m thrilled to announce the launch of our groundbreaking Resilient Leadership Group on January 10th, 2024.
With over a decade of experience as a career and leadership coach, I’ve had the privilege of helping hundreds of individuals elevate their careers to new heights. My secret? RESILIENCE. I will teach you the six essential drivers of resilience in the workplace.
By joining our exclusive community of Resilient Leaders, you’ll:
Invest in Yourself: Take a pause from the chaos of your daily routine and invest in your personal and professional growth. Building your resilience muscle is an investment that pays dividends.
Enjoy the Journey: Learning and practicing resilience doesn’t have to be a chore. We’ll have a blast while honing these essential skills together, fostering a supportive and engaging environment.
Join a Like-Minded Community: Starting on Wednesday, January 10th, 2024, you’ll embark on a transformative journey alongside fellow Resilient Leaders who share your aspirations. Email me at janemckeanbcs@gmail.com.
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Then I am your coach. I help professionals become Resilient Leaders, so they can have careers that have clarity, purpose, and intention.
Being a Resilient Leader can help you with the following:
-your career goals so you can flourish
-your team so they can flourish
-your company so you have a culture of a flourishing company.
Here are my offerings:
One-to-one coaching – sign up for a consultation
Group Coaching Resilient Leaders, sign up for a consultation to make sure you are the right fit for the group.
Customized presentation or group coaching for your company.
A Career is like a Road Trip
Building resilience is a skill that can be strengthened with practice. It is an
essential work skill to use so you can flourish in your career. So you can
have a flourishing road trip.
To tap into self-compassion in relation to a career transition or to become a Resilient Leader, email me at janemckeanbcs@gmail.com for a 30-minute complimentary consultation.
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Self-efficacy is the belief that you can succeed. You can do it. This is our fifth leadership skill in being a Resilient Leader.
Efficacy is the ability to make things happen. “Self-efficacy is the ability to do it for ourselves. It is the ability to move with the agency through life toward our goals,” says Albert Bandura.
To build self-efficacy, here are four areas to tap into:
Mastery of Experiences – remember your past achievements, obstacles that you overcame, goals achieved, and skills you acquired. This builds confidence. Write them down, say them out loud, and tell a friend.
Role Models- you learn from your role models. we learn from observing. Who do you admire, and what do you learn from them?
Support Team – It’s the idea that one’s environment affects one, and the environment includes other people. Surround yourself with people who believe in you, have confidence in you, and can help you overcome doubt and fear when facing challenges. This is your support team.
Believe – “I can do it.” Negative thoughts and feelings are temporary, and you will overcome them. The belief that you can succeed overrides thoughts and feelings. You may feel uncomfortable or afraid however, you know you can do it.
Email me or call me if you would like to build your own self-efficacy. Everyone has it, and you must use it to strengthen it. I am on your support team. Contact me!
RECAP: We are Resilient Leaders. We face many challenges at work, at home, and in our communities. We know we can overcome these challenges by using leadership skills. Here are five skills that can help build your resiliency.
To tap into self-compassion in relation to a career transition or to become a Resilient Leader, email me at janemckeanbcs@gmail.com for a 30-minute complimentary consultation.
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To be a Resilient Leader, we need to flex optimism.
I am here to remind you of this power: optimism. When you are planning a meeting, a project, and your career, ask yourself, “What is the optimistic vision? What could go right?”
As a Resilient Leader, it is our job to remember what could go right, or what I call the optimistic vision. We naturally think about obstacles and what could go wrong because our brain is protecting us.
We want to give our brains the equal opportunity to see the glass half full (optimism) and to see the glass half empty (pessimism). As Resilient Leaders, it is our job to ask both questions:
I am focusing on all the negatives that could happen when I talk to my boss. What could go right?
I see we are talking about all the things that could go wrong. How about we shift to what could go right?
I see we are so excited for this project to launch, and we are doing our best work. Let’s take a moment to notice any obstacles that could come in our way.
It’s not about having blind optimism or persistent pessimism, it is about the balance of both.
If you find yourself thinking about only the obstacles or the pessimistic side, challenge yourself to think about the optimistic vision. Plan your day with your optimistic vision in mind.
Having a hard time focusing on your optimistic vision or your team’s optimistic vision? Is fear ruling your head? Send me an email, I can help.
To tap into self-compassion in relation to a career transition or to become a Resilient Leader, email me at janemckeanbcs@gmail.com for a 30-minute complimentary consultation.
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Self-Compassion is the third driver of Resiliency. Please email me or send this email to a friend who would like to tap into their own self-compassion so that you can be a resilient leader!
Kristin Neff (https://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-selfcompassion-2/) defines self-compassion as having compassion for oneself is no different than having compassion for others. First, to have compassion for others, you must notice that they are suffering. Second, compassion involves feeling moved by others’ suffering so that your heart responds to their pain (the word compassion literally means to “suffer with”). Having compassion also means that you offer understanding and kindness to others when they fail or make mistakes rather than judging them harshly. It means that you realize that suffering, failure, and imperfection is part of the shared human experience.
When you are suffering give yourself self-compassion. This will boost your resiliency.
Self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don’t like about yourself. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality, you stop to tell yourself “this is really difficult right now,” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?
How do you give yourself self-compassion? There are many ways to practice self-compassion. Here are a few that I discuss in the video below.
To give you a work example: Remember Joanne who has had two bosses in the past year and is getting ready for her third boss? She was overwhelmed and felt like a victim. To help her move through these feelings, we worked on her self-compassion. When we met for our session, we did a brief RAIN meditation from Tara Brach. Here is Tara Brach’s flow on a self-compassion meditation:
R- recognize what you are feeling
A- allow yourself to feel these feelings
I- investigate where you feel these feelings in your body. Place a loving hand on where you are feeling these feelings.
N- nurture this area with a massage. Also, tell yourself nurturing thoughts like, “I am safe,” “I know what I am doing,” “I got this.”
See Tara Brach’s video below:
Joanne told me that this meditation helped her move through her complex feelings of having a third boss. She felt more resilient when the meditation was over so she could face and work with her third boss.
When you are feeling stuck with thoughts like, “Ugh my boss told me I had to do x, y, and z, and I still need to do a,b,c.” Take a self-compassion break and do a RAIN meditation with Tara Brach. You are not alone; we all face these overwhelming feelings, especially at work. We need to take care of ourselves with self-compassion.
To tap into self-compassion in relation to a career transition or to become a Resilient Leader, email me at janemckeanbcs@gmail.com for a 30-minute complimentary consultation.
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“[T]he process by which individuals influence which emotions they have, when they have them, and how they experience and express their feelings. Emotional regulation can be automatic or controlled, conscious or unconscious, and may have effects at one or more points in the emotion producing process.” (Gross, 1998, p. 275).
A key component of emotional regulation is your self-awareness as you are feeling an emotion. When you practice being curious about what you are feeling – or being a witness to what you are feeling – you can Pause – Process – Proceed.
For Resilient Leaders, emotional regulation is the ability to pause, notice your feelings, and the process in a constructive way, and then proceed to choose a healthy and productive response that aligns with your values. This is what I discuss in my coaching sessions on emotional regulation. Here is an example for additional clarification.
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I am sharing the skills that make up resiliency so you know when you are being a resilient leader. Awareness is key, so you can do it again. We are building our awareness and vocabulary around resiliency.
Last month I shared a graph from BU Labs. The five skills that are making a difference today include: cognitive agility, emotional regulation, self-compassion, optimism, and self-efficacy.
Today we are talking about cognitive agility.
If you or you know of someone that would like to tap into their resiliency, please forward them this email. Email me (janemckeanbcs@gmail.com) or text me (202) 491-5487 to set up a free 30-minute consultation.
A 2018 study by Jared Ross defined cognitive agility as the capacity of an individual to easily move back and forth between openness and focus. Improving cognitive agility has the potential to increase emotional intelligence by increasing an individual’s ability to move between highly focused states to levels of broad, outward awareness, which enables dynamic decision-making and enhances personal communication skills.
I like to tell my clients cognitive agility is shifting your perspective from seeing the forest to seeing the trees. I see the big picture, and I also see the details. Work is constantly changing. We need leaders to be able to shift their thinking to adapt to new challenges. One thing that is always constant is change. So, what does this look like in real life?
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