Hi everyone, it’s Jane McKean at Jane Coaching!

It’s February, and I would like to welcome everyone to February. I

‘ve decided to call February the radical compassion month, from Tara Brach. She is awesome, she has this book, Radical Compassion.

I am reading it, and I absolutely love it! She gives us instructions, an acronym, RAIN, to show us how to be with our feelings. To be with uncomfortable feelings and to help us move through them. I thought this was apropos for COVID. There are a lot of feelings, everyone’s been feeling, and we need to learn how to move through them so we can get to the other side.

I wanted to share this with you. It is a tangent off of the positivity book that I talked about in last year’s video, about tapping into our positivity, which is Love. I think radical compassion goes along with loving ourselves, loving other people, having compassion for ourselves, having compassion for other people. At this trying time during COVID, I think it’s really important that we focus on this. RAIN is the acronym and what Tara Brach says is we need to recognize what is going on, we need to allow this experience to happen – that it just is, and to Investigate with interest and care. Where do I feel it in my body? Then we need to Nurture ourselves, give us self-compassion.

For instance, I’ll use myself as an example. I do not like doing these videos. I feel very overwhelmed when I do them. I feel there is some sort of impostor syndrome. Who am I to be doing these videos? And I wanted to share that with you because I am committed to do them once a month this year. I’m going to continue to do them, and I have to sit with these uncomfortable feelings and walk through this experience, and do these videos.

To take care of myself and give myself, self-compassion so it is not so hard each time. I need to sit with myself with these feelings, and so I’ll use myself as an example. I have to recognize what’s going on inside me and in my body, I need to allow these feelings, that it’s okay. I am human. That I have these feelings, “Who am I to be doing a video? Am I worthy of doing this video? Will people respond?” So I need to allow these feelings coming in and allowing opens up other feelings to come in too, that this is the human experience. It’s okay to have doubts. It’s okay to have these feelings. And then I investigate. Tara Brach says. I investigate where is it happening in my body, and I feel it in my heart, my heart races a little bit, I feel it in my throat, I feel stiff, but that’s okay. The more I do the videos the less stiff I probably will feel.

Feeling it in my body and being curious about it. That is where the N comes in and nurturing it. Nurturing these feelings in my body, and I can put my hand on my heart and I say, “It’s okay. I am here for you. You’re going to get through this. And you are worthy, you do have something valuable to say.” To sit there with those emotions and just move through those feelings.

I do this every day, and it’s new for me, this is something that a lot of people do struggle with. My clients in the sense of there are lots of feelings out there right now of trying to get a new job, wanting to take that next step in their current job, getting a new promotion, how will I do it? What can I say? What can I do? And there are uncomfortable feelings, so I want you to have a resource. Tara Brach is a huge resource. This book is a huge resource, and we can talk about it in your sessions, and if you want to have a consult, sign up on my website, janecoaching.com, and we could talk about it in a consultation.

I also have another great resource for us, it’s Donna Danielle, she does this work in her office. She is going to do a mindfulness day of nurturing ourselves. And I signed up, so if you want to join me and have more tools on how to nurture ourselves, please check her out on her website. I will put it in my blog attached to this video, which will be on my website, janecoaching.com. I also will include it in my newsletter information. My CRM that I send out to all of you. I just want you all to have a great February. Hopefully, these tools will help you. And I will see you in March with my next video.

Thanks, everyone. Enjoy your day. Bye.

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